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If you listen closely, you will find that lots of us make excuses for ourselves all the time.  People says things like, “I’m not good at keeping in touch with friends” or “I’m not good at exercising” or “I’m not good at saving money,” when the reality is that they just don’t make it a […]

Our lives have gotten so complicated these days, with the constant demands of social media and email.  Is it any wonder that we are feeling stressed by the onslaught?  The fact is, we were not designed to handle this level of input.  Professor Theodore Roszak, famously quoted:  “A weekday edition of The New York Times […]

I had a client once who had been sexually abused for years by her stepfather, and even when she finally told her mother years later, her mom refused to believe her.  And yet, my client was one of the happiest people I’d ever met.  She felt grateful for having survived and felt that she had […]

I was attending a middle school presentation last night at my son’s school.  All the presentations by the middle school teachers were great, but I noticed that the women presenters tended to apologize either in words or body language.  One apologized for talking behind the podium, since she said she “wasn’t a podium kind of […]

I had a client a few years ago who is a talented performer but felt that he had hit a ceiling, and couldn’t imagine going further in his career.  I asked him a lot of questions about how he was spending his time and whom he was spending it with.  This client was very hard […]

I was coaching a client recently who just landed a great job in her dream city. Instead of feeling happy, though, she was feeling anxious about all the other parts of her life that she didn’t have time for yet, since she was traveling a lot for work and still unpacking from her move. I […]

I love the idea of reframing something.  In a literal sense, a new frame can make an old picture seem new.  In a figurative sense, it involves looking at something in a new way. This is so important as you venture toward taking more creative risks, because failure is inevitable.  Recently I entered a writing […]

I was talking with a friend recently about the strange phenomenon these days of really nice people raising bratty and frankly mean kids.  “How is that possible?  Don’t nice people raise nice kids?” my friend asked, perplexed.  I’ll never forget years ago seeing a mom and her four children in a lecture hall with mostly […]

So often we think we don’t know what we love to do because we’re so focused on pleasing other people.  All you have to do is notice when you’re happy, when you’re so filled with joy that you feel unstoppable.  This picture was taken from an Indian dance at my son’s school.  The boys did […]